Childbirth fanaticism and baby mythology

When I was pregnant there was a whole collection of useless tests. It didn't matter what the result was. You just keep doing what you wrre doing. The iron myth and hemoglobin myth make it so that a woman with "lower" levels has to consume copious amounts of supplements and floradix and tablets. I did none of these and have a baby that is thriving. I did consume one little tablet of folic acid in month two of pregnancy once a week. But other than that I did not take the "compulsory" folic acid throughout pregancy. My baby has no neural tube issues. In the second month of pregnancy the neural tube of the baby closes. After that, any supplements are just going to waste. I did not take any prenatals. I did just fine. My baby is also fine.

I was made to fear a low birth weight baby because I am petite. My baby was born 3 kg! She is 6 kg at the three month old mark!

Once the baby is born, you have more confusion and mythology. Baby should sleep 15 hours a day. If not, you invest your money in sleep consultants and trillions of sleep advice books. Reading online makes it super confusing because there are so many differing opinions. Feed on demand. Feed lying down. Nurse to sleep. Don't ever nurse or rock to sleep. Put the baby down awake, or else it will "crap nap". I mean, a 45 min nap is valid, normal, and not crap for a grateful person. Baby will never sleep in their own bed. Baby will never learn to sleep on their own unless they cry it out. For cry it out to work, you leave the room. Gentle method is to give baby set emounts of time to cry and set them up by messing with their anticipation, teaching them to simply cry longer and longer each time to get you back. More gentle is verbal reassurance while letting baby cry and not picking them up... letting them know that you are completely incompetent.

I was so scared to nurse to sleep. Now my baby naps well and doesn't have any issues when nursed to sleep. Albeit upright to prevent unburped gas from creating trapped wind pain later.

I was feeding her every time she cried. That is not feeding on demand. That is feeding to silence all complaints without figuring out why she is upset. It was giving her digestive overload and seriously offensive and huge quantities of gas.

We let her do controlled crying for an hour for two days to get her to sleep better. I feel horrible about it and wish I had never let her cry. It makes the heart so hard. And it doesn't work. I spent too much time frustrated that I couldn't have a "routine" or "schedule" with my baby. I was so tired of stretching out the time between her feeds because the feeding interval should ideally* be 4 hours. I went insane, lost weight and lots of hair. I feel terrible.

Too much mythology surrounds childbirth and babies. One must navigate the content provided by official institutions as well as so-called experts on their websites. Who authorizes these people anyway. They are self proclaimed gurus. Even the official organisations like ibclc and la leche league propound such nonsensical breastfeeding myths. Hind milk? It's not okay for baby to snack?

So many parents might be lured by the solutions to problems that don't exist. Babies sleep erratically and you cannot control their sleeping patterns. Period. You must adapt to the feeding and sleeping pattern you baby needs.

Today I fed her when she was hungry and waited an hour and fed her to sleep. It works for her, so why should I worry that I gave both breasts in one session.

Is it wind or a sleep cycle ending? Is it separation anxiety or just not wanting to play alone? Is it hunger or gas? Is it time for bed for baby or is it your time for bed that you selected and are trying to force upon your baby? Is white noise every single nap and through the night fine for baby's hearing? Why stop swaddling at 2 or 3 months!? My baby never rolled over while swaddled. Don't they need momentum from one bent leg to turn over any way? Why no belly sleeping? Why no side sleeping? It turns of the Moro reflex and helps babies nap better... I dislike the discouragement of side sleeping. SIDS actually refers to the abysmal ignorance that doctors have and proves that they know nothing. It's all bluffing and speculation.

Maya has set it up so that you will cringe nursing to sleep, and rocking to sleep, worrying that you baby will never learn to sleep by herself and has "sleep prop" problems. WHAT OTHER WAY IS THERE TO GET THEM TO SLEEP? Awake in bed? If it works for you then good for you! My baby won't take being put awake very well. She doesn't prefer being rocked to bed. She prefers to nurse to sleep. It also makes sense that she needs to suck more before sleeping to feel drowsy, calm down, and swallow the saliva needed for digestion. She does not need a pacifier! Another myth from a bluffing expert who assumes that experience equals authority. It does not. It just means you may have done the wrong thing for a longer time.