Let's fight and have misunderstandings

In chapter 14 of Bhagavad Gita, it is explained how sometimes the mode of goodness defeats passion and ignorance, sometimes passion defeats the other two, and at other times ignorance wins over them.

This shows how the modes of material nature are constantly fighting for supremacy, and the result is that the people through which these modes are fighting, take it that the fight is between them.

Let's fight and have misunderstandings. That's not what anyone wants, and is yet the most invetiable thing that exists. It's impossible to prevent it from happening. It's as sure as death. It's just a matter of time before something like this happens.

And sometimes we lose sleep over it. We boil our own blood. We harm ourselves to no end, thinking, >>I've been misunderstood << and let the pain of that feeling turn into anger.

This is the story of life. We are pained when we are misunderstood and we suffer immeasurably in an ocean of such pain. And this happens again and again, and the trigger is outside our control.

Thankfully, the choice of whether to undergo such pain is with us. Suffering is optional. When someone doesn't understand us, misquotes or misjudges us, spreads rumors about us or fights with us, we can choose whether to accept the pain and suffer, or to understand the position of our opponent and forgive them for not being able to understand us. We can forgive their lack of perspective, lack of knowledge, and presumptuousness. We can appreciate that they are trying to do the best they can from the position they are in, and that we would behave the same way if we had the same amount of knowledge as them.

Ignorance is no reason to hate someone. It's just a reason to feel true compassion for them.
One who is wise talks less, because generally no one wants to hear the bitter truth from them and no one really likes to pass on the mic. People would rather talk and be heard by others than listen to someone dissecting their maladies for them.

Today, I want to promise to myself that when I am misunderstood, I shall simply take shelter of Krishna and pray for help and guidance. He is the only one who will never misunderstand me. I cannot change others or help them feel less angry with me beyond a certain point. That is their choice if they continue to misunderstand even after I try to explain my position. All I can do is accept their choice and remain humble. It definitely does not mean that I agree with them superficially to make them feel better or to stroke their ego. If I disagree with them, then I do, but without anger or any ill feeling. My opinion is not against any person, it's just an opinion, and it's out there and people can do what they like with it, react in any manner that they see fit.