super frustrated

I've been avoiding sugar and dinners. And I've been trying to spend good time with Tulsi and reduce her interaction with her masi, whose dog is Tulsi's sole point of interaction. I am so frustrated. Because Tulsi decided to help me do the dishes. Because i like to do it my way, without mess, without her breaking any glass, and without her getting wet, making a mess outside the sink, and wasting water. I just had to scream at her for rescrubbing things, putting washed dishes back in the sink, coming in my way and making it difficult for me to just finish doing the dishes and be done with it.

But what about her life. She needs to know how to do the dishes. She needs to know how to clean up. She wants to imitate me. It's better engagement than just a screen. And she will bond with me and we'll be closer to each other if we do the dishes together. I should invite her, let her make a mess, try to teach without yelling, and be happy and enjoy instead of being so grumpy. I have to let go of my need to be in control, prevent things I consider nasty के जब्त